32 Universal Truths About Men

Recently so many of my friends have started coming to me and asking me to advice them. There are so many problems when comes to relationships, and even though everyone thinks that women are complicated, what I think is that there are so many facets to a man’s personality that its more difficult to know what he would want.

For girls its always the fairy tale and the princess charming, but for guys, sometimes its Cameron Diaz, sometimes Megan Fox, one minute they’ll totally be into Angelina Jolie and the other it will be Scarlett Johansson. They are so confused, so I decided on writing down 32 things a man would say or think…

So here it goes..

  

1. Why should I remind you that “I love you?” I already told you once.
2. I hate arguing with you. I’d much rather find a compromise.”Baby please adjust”  
3. I love long hair. I don’t care if it’s 50 degrees.
4. I need to be told “no” sometimes. But I’d rather not. 
5. Please don’t ask me how you look unless you’re willing to trust my answer.  
6. My eyes notice other women a lot ‘more’ when you are upset with me.
7. I expect you to be ready when I pick you up. Even if I get late.
8. Cigarettes make any woman look cheap and easy. But they are classy and stylish for a man.
9. I'm scared if I let a woman inside my heart, she'll take advantage of me. (it’s just the sex)
10. You did something hurtful. If I never bring it up. (I’m considering leaving you)
11. I don’t read minds. (Remember, I’m not a woman)
12. If I’m losing my hair, it’s not funny. (even though he makes fun of your weight)
13. When I talk to you about golf and you act bored I hate it. (even though I’m busy to hear whatever you have to say)
14. The woman I love is easy to please. (because I don’t have to put too much effort into anything)
15. I hate being told what to do when I don't ask for help. It makes me feel like you're my mother. 
16. If you sleep over, I might eventually marry you, but I'm less motivated. 
17. It makes me feel like you trust me when you ask for my advice.(even though I would never want yours)
18. It feels competitive when you insist on being in charge.
19. I hate it when you minimize, ignore or tell me I don’t trust you.(even though I do the same things several times)
20. I’m more insecure than you think. Why do you think I need your respect so much?  
21. I don’t always know how I feel. That’s why I don’t tell you.
22. I don’t need you to do things for me. (I really do want you do so many things). 
23. If I do one thing and say something contradictory (I’ll always say the same to you)
24. I find myself wanting to please you (like a favor).
25. I really don’t want to hear about any of your ex-boyfriends, regardless of the point. (even if it means sharing your life)
26. If I don’t share what I’m thinking, it’s because I don’t think you will listen without interrupting. (I’m absolutely blank, I’m not thinking anything)
27. I don’t like to argue and I don’t like to guess what’s wrong. Just tell me so I can fix it.
28. Don’t ask me, “Are you going to wear that?” when I’m already dressed.
29. A gentleman should always be respected by his lady in public, even if she is disagreeing with him. (even if is a jerk)
30. If you cheat on me, it is nearly impossible for me to get over it.(but when I cheat I expect you to forgive me)
31. I don’t remember everything about our relationship but that doesn’t mean I don’t love you.
32. I need some time to myself to calm down when I’m upset so that I don’t say something I will regret.  

High Heels to High Confidence

Research shows that the reason most women wear high heels is that it boasts their confidence and somehow allows them to have a high level of esteem for themselves.

So what is it about a 6 inch high, heel piercing spike that makes a woman want to walk on it all day..

I for one, somehow feel that only a woman very sure about herself and extremely comfortable in their skin can carry off a pair of mind melting heel. Someone who is insecure and already thinks lowly of herself will never be able to achieve the right kind of balance.

High heels also create a nicer figure, they elongate your leg & create a more toned shape with the added advantage of increasing your height and they even make your bum look nicer. It actually gives you a certain level of confidence to wear high heels too.

There's just something about slipping on a high heeled shoe that does that to you. For me it’s about the pleasure of wearing heel and looking down at people. And the sound they make - it's the sound of class, femininity, it's sexy and empowering. When you walk through a long silent corridor with nothing but the clicking of your high heels and everyone turns to look at you, that a statement one makes.

High heels are uncomfortable and make walking more difficult. Prolonged use can injure the feet, knees and back. So why do women keep wearing them?

Yes! The short answer seems to be that shallow. Women in heels are more likely to attract favourable notice.

In Sense And Sensibility, Jane Austen describes the character Elinor Dashwood as having a "delicate complexion, regular features, and... remarkably pretty figure". But Austen describes Elinor's sister, Marianne, as "still handsomer. Her form, though not so correct as her sister's, in having the advantage of height, was more striking".

In addition to making women taller, high heels force the back to arch, pushing the bosom forward and the buttocks rearward, thus accentuating the female form.

Someone great shoe maker from the past said something about the science of the high heeled shoe - it does something to stimulate the wearer sexually. By the angle or pressure or something, I don't know if it's true though.

But what I do know is that for any woman anytime it is very important to respect herself and to feel very secure about herself, it doesn’t matter how she looks, also not indicating that wearing high heel would make you prettier but that will be one thing you do for yourself.

To wear a pair of hurting shoes and walking in them all day is your choice, one that you make. So out of the 10 choices you this week keeping your family, your work, your guy in mind, this is one that is all about yourself. Can you love yourself before anyone else, because that is exactly what high heels teach you, to take responsibility of yourself and no one else for just one day.

For me high heels are like a calling, there is nothing that can cheer me up more than a pair of pretty shoes on a bad day. I can shop for clothes but they won’t be of any use if I turned fat, or they just may not suit me in any way but shoes, they always look nice, every kind and each type. They will not disappoint me and they will give that one extra bit of confidence if nothing else can motivate me.

Call of a Broken Heart

When all else fails I turn to the night because that is where I found you . . Under the moon walking the street alone. That's where I go now looking for you but you have moved on.

When we first met the world was a gloomy place, its the same for me now, you were the sun of my sky that shone to bring me the light. For a brief period of time I thought that life was like this . . That life could mean so much more than it ever meant.

I never realised that living a day and reaching the night that didn't have you could even be possible. Every day of my life, every minute of each passing hour there was only one thought in my mind, that was you.

Everytime I broke down, you collected all the pieces and somehow put me back together. I'm no puzzle, not difficult at all but there are things in life that I can't change or say without complicating yet you understood everything, my need for silence, my want of your touch, my craving for your voice.

I don't think that there will ever be me without you in it. No matter how far you go, no matter where I be, your essence is embedded in every cell of my body, each time you gathered me in your arms, you left a little bit of you inside of me. There is not one beat of my heart that doesn't say your name.

Even you are not here and I am, I only think about you. Not a moment passes when I don't want to be with you. So when all else fails, and I'm no where to be found, this is where I'll be, waiting, listening and loving. Yes, loving with all the broken pieces of my heart I will be loving you and waiting right where it started and right where you left me.

And if ever you need me, just remember all you need to do is close your eyes and think of me. You are the life that makes me want to live, so I'll come, somehow anyhow I'll come.

For you I'd cross the feilds of hell and still be there right where you want me. Yes for you, my life, my soul and my existence, for you.

The Beauty & The Beast

So the thing about big green monsters is that they are suppose to be scary, they are suppose to make us fear every big object capable of hurt. But sometimes maybe just sometimes, when we see a big, huge even person who looks capable of destruction may be he is something else, something that we overlooked.

Yes, yes I've been watching movies again, but then movies are based on someone’s epiphany, or an inspiration struck at late hours in night. Either way, movies to come from the minds of people and are made for the thoughts of other people.

So I'm not a green fan but every time I see The Hulk I start thinking . . And think and think and think . . So he gets angry and smashes everything in his ravenous fits yet when he sees his girl somehow something inside him triggers and makes him think again makes him feel again. Like I always say love can conquer all but its just amazing so astonishing, it is a phenomenon that can only be seen in the eyes of a lover ready to give up the world to see the other half of his heart again. From what I reckoned it must take the heart the size of an ocean to do something like such but then maybe the heart of a hulk is big enough.

Not everyone can handle the anger and rage but if you look carefully the relationship between Bruce Banner and Betty is not about managing anger but about how the eyes of the beast can recognize the heart and love a girl has for the man inside of him. It’s so much about finding that little part inside the hulk which is still holding on to the reality . . A part him that also what's to be found by someone who wants him.

Since I have been studying so much writing styles and techniques these days I start viewing everything in the light of the same. The maker of The Hulk has actually made a movie of much satirical reference wherein he makes a mockery to the government which could force a common man to become big and angry. That's one thought, which needs much attention from everyone. But back to the love story since I'm such a great love analyst and strategist I like to think that the big bang happened because of abundance of love inside it . . A closed structure cannot contain that much love so it exploded to make more space. I also like to speculate that everything that works properly in this world is because the small particles of love connect everything together and where ever they are wiped clean that is where the dis-functioning starts.

When a beast as unintelligent as the Hulk can understand it, then the possibility of it being difficult is absolutely zilch.

Its not love that's complicated, its the people and their expectations that's threatens the happiness. Love is simple, patient and kind, it does not require the public show off or the private promises, all that love requires is a heart that beats identically to the other.

The motto or the moral that the Hulk teaches us is that, all a good relationship requires is a heart willing to find the hope to carry on, it requires someone who can find you even when you can't find yourself.